Three stages, walked together — never sprung on anyone.

Inventory

Name every device in the home.

Phones, laptops, tablets, gaming consoles, smart TVs, the router itself. The two of you work through the inventory lesson — usually one evening, at your own pace — and write them all down. Nothing is changed yet. Nothing is judged.

You finish the inventory lesson with a written list, an honest picture, and no surprises waiting later.

Guided lockdown

Taught first. Then applied — with consent.

Before any setting changes, both spouses walk through exactly what is coming: what each tool does, what stays in the recovering spouse's name, what the accountability partner will and will not be looking at. The recovering spouse signs off on each item before it is applied.

Then the locks go in. Filtering, screen-time and content restrictions, accountability software set up the way it actually works. Every account stays in your spouse's name; every master password stays in their hands.

Cadence

Keep it alive. Be able to leave it.

The arrangement only works if it is tended. We give you a rhythm:

Weekly check-in.

Short, structured conversation. The program gives you the script.

Monthly review.

Walk through what is working, what has changed, what needs adjusting.

90-day re-consent.

Your spouse re-affirms or revises every lock.

Exit door.

A defined, dignified way to dismantle it if needed.